Simplify your life {Week thirteen: Check in}

by Debra Dane on March 26, 2012

in Simplify your life 2012

Thank you to every person reading along and those who have blogged their journey so far with 52 weeks to simplify your life (from the inside out). We have now completed an amazing three months together and I know it has not always been easy! That was the “inside” part and the key difference, I believe, in whether any “outside” changes we make going forward will actually stick.

 

Having just completed a focus on inner work after many weeks of foundation work, we are going to be looking at time management over six weeks. We will cover everything from planning to commitments to decision making and procrastination. Before we delve into this next area I figured we could use another catch up week.

 

Challenge for week thirteen: I would love to have everyone check in on their goals they set in week six. What steps have you taken? What results are you seeing so far? Have you revised any goals that were unrealistic or not really in line with where you want to go from here?

Please do not feel badly if you set some goals and barely moved forward (taking action, however small is the aim here). This is what we are going to address now.

If you have not moved forward yet think about why not.

  • Did you set out a list of 10 goals and try to tackle them all (or feel overwhelmed thinking you should tackle them all)? Try to focus solely on one goal until you have that one well under way.


  • Did you set goals, but not break them down into smaller steps? Look at your highest priority goal and think of what the first/next action step needs to be to move forward – commit to doing that first step this week.


  • Did you not decide which one or two were of highest priority? Review your goals and decide which goal you want to start with – the most urgent or the one with the greatest potential return or the one you can tackle easily and build some positive momentum…

 

  • Are you lacking motivation?  Figure out or tap back into your “why” for intrinsic motivation  - how do you want to feel or be, what good changes will this goal bring into your life, how do you visualise your life when you reach the goal?  If needed, have you come up with an external motivator – a reward that ties in with the goal, a public end goal (like a race for a fitness goal)?

 

  • Did you start moving on a goal or two and then come to a standstill? Figure out what your road block is and how you can get back on your path.

 

My own check in on my two biggest goals:

Health and Wellness

1. Take my medications and supplements everyday (I have three prescriptions plus several supplements) whereas previously missed at least one day a week

I am still working on not missing any days with my medication, but have improved greatly and continue trying different ways  to make it stick in my routine.

2. Exercise three days a week again after taking a six week break of barely exercising over Summer.

I have made it to the gym an average of twice every week (except two) since setting the goal . I asked friends for support by tackling my first fun run and we are doing the Mother’s Day Classic 4km run together in May. I have varied my exercises and tried a new gym class this past week that I am excited about and will see that as becoming my consistent third day of exercise. By the end of April I hope to have hit three days a week each week.

3. Food changes for our family – still being worked on and too complex for this post – overall aims are increasing family meals, increasing vegetable intake for all, starting occupational therapy for my 8 year old’s food issues (first appointment is today). This area needs the most work in April.

Fun and Adventure

I declared I would say yes to anything proposed in this area – opportunities from others, ideas suggested by my family, etc instead of sitting on the side lines

1. I asked for ideas on this blog and was able to compile a list of 101 ideas for family fun and adventure.

2. We reviewed these and my family chose many ideas and added some more to their newly declared “bucket list of fun”.

3. We had our first adventure in the middle of March and went to an area of Brisbane none of us had explored. It was a miserable day weather wise which would normally have found me curled up with a book or DVD. Instead we hit the beach, held hands, collected shells, went for a walk to a pier and talked to people fishing, the kids scooted around, we hit the playground as well and everyone declared it a fun (and wet and windy) day. The kids each had a camera and took photos on the day which came in handy for item four.

4. We have created an adventure journal (photo above) and will be putting in photos and details of what we get up to this year. This post on Go Explore Nature was a great starting point.

5. I started a fun and adventure board on pinterest to collect ideas that are either for Brisbane specifically or things we might like to try. I am only putting limited things in here so that it remains practical and I will review it often as we plan months ahead.

6. This past weekend was all about fun and time together since my husband is working insane hours right now and I am away for three days this week. On Saturday we ended up getting dinner from a favourite Greek restaurant and taking it to a park. Everyone tried new foods, played until sunset and then we took a night time ferry ride down the river to get our favourite ice cream. Being out at night with the kids in the city is such a rare thing and gives a totally different experience in places we normally take for granted in the daytime. Coloured lights on buildings and bridges, people out on the town, it screams adventure. We all had such a great time we will be doing this again and again this year.

Sunday was meant to be more of an at home relaxing day. Lulu took charge with fun though and asked if I could turn my planned pumpkin soup dinner into a “letter P party”. The kids planned everything and we had – pizza with pepperoni and pineapple amongst the toppings, pumpkin soup, plum clafoutis for dessert, the kids wore purple and Lulu playing her drums for entertainment (percussion!). There was pass the parcel, charades with only letter P words/phrases and purple and pink balloons for decorations. Alice mentioned she hates the end of Sundays because it is the close of the weekend – I will take that as the best feedback on how our time is being spent these days.

Saying yes gets easier and easier and I know it means the world to my family.

 

Link up for week twelve {Dealing with change}

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Find your simple,

Deb



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Simply Kate March 26, 2012 at 8:44 am

Thanks Deb. I definitely need this ‘catch up’ week as I have been thinking about how great it all seems in each post, my goals, my plans, my ambitions, but… what exactly have I done… well, I did do the biggest thing required, and I guess my post this week relates to this next challenge, but what of the ‘all talk, no action’! Be great now to go back and reread all twelve weeks and see how I can go about moving forward bit by bit. Enough ‘talk’ from me… action to be done. And, again, thank you!
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 9:43 am

You are welcome kate – and thank you for showing up every week! Rereading is great as you are at a different place now and can reflect on the words you write previously in the moment and perhaps find more clarity or refine your ideas or change things to match where you are at.
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Aroha @ Colours of Sunset March 26, 2012 at 8:44 am

Oh Deb, I’m a bit choked up reading that last paragraph. And the night out in the city sounds amazing!! It sounds like even with your husbands insane hours, you’re making the time you ARE all together really count, and giving the girls something to look forward to every week! Amazing inspiration!
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 9:46 am

Thanks Aroha – the main thing is this is where I am needed right now and it does mean my blog posts are fewer and my facebook updates are less frequent but I will trust it is what it is supposed to be… rather than making it into what I think it is supposed to be. This is where my constant lesson in letting go pushes me – sometimes it is expectations that go and sometimes it is effort and sometimes it is time.
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Bec March 26, 2012 at 10:46 am

Oh yes this is what I need too. It’s crazy how easy it is to get behind. I feel very behind at the moment due to having 4 or so days sick and out of action – and then spending less time on the computer (which is great I know – but makes me feel behind and like I’m missing out on reading all the awesome blog posts) and organising a birthday party (my baby girl is now 3). So now I have weeks 11 and 12 to do and I feel like I’m running out of time….(I’m doing a home challenge which I’m in the same situation, so 2 weeks of tasks for 2 challanges…) – checking in on my goals should be a nice easy one to complete!
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 8:09 pm

Don’t feel behind – take it one post at a time… Life gets crazy – i have not caught up on reading all the posts linked up and try not to beat myself up too. Try to think of it as only 13 weeks out of 52 weeks – still heaps of time
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kirri March 26, 2012 at 11:02 am

I just adore the way you have all your family involved in creating mini-adventures! It doesn’t take that much to turn an ordinary day into something really special, fun and memorable. I know how much my girls would love to do something like this…so might steal this ‘letter party idea” ~Thanks x
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 8:10 pm

Steal away – it works great for a birthday party too – you can do the birthday person’s first initial. i think i might push my luck and suggest rainbow for next time and see if the food ideas work well.
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Grace March 26, 2012 at 11:43 am

Wow Deb, every week it just gets more exciting ! I guess I’m going to have to do a bit of a back track to Week 6, but I’m up for the challenge !!!
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 8:13 pm

Take time to read through the earlier weeks you missed and do what you want in your own time. You can blog it (and double up some weeks) or just do it privately (some people are doing this offline in a journal)
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lulu March 26, 2012 at 2:07 pm

I have just linked up and caught up- I did week 12 & 13 together because I read this before having done much for my week 12 and might be harder to write next week while I am still in Australia.

I need to regroup and get through the next international flight, move house, and then find time to focus on this challenge again although I know you would be understanding either way!

I touched on {in my post} how I don`t deal so well with change and neither does my older son who is quite like me in many ways so I am trying to be better about change so that he in turn can learn the skills he needs to cope better as well.
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 8:15 pm

yes definitely just deal with your trip – I am really hoping the planets align and i can make my way to meet up with you later next week. I will be in touch Sunday or Monday ok? (kind of crazy but fun to meet up after 12 + weeks of SYL)
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Jane March 26, 2012 at 8:07 pm

Hello Deb, you gorgeous girl

Yes, I’m still here! After all the curve-balls life’s thrown us lately, I’ve been too scared to even visit here as I haven’t even had the time to do a single thing for SYL.

That ends tonight. I have all my PDFs of recent posts ready to be printed and then I’m going to catch up. In my own time and as best I can. Given all the circumstances and my recovering perfectionist tendencies – you *get* what I mean!

So, watch out – here’s my big leap in!

J x
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Debra Dane March 26, 2012 at 8:16 pm

Can’t wait to hear more – at your own pace and however you end up doing it hon – if typing hurts your hand too much don’t stress yourself any more about this – you can read and process and make notes in a journal (i know you have one LOL) and post later when you feel better. {No more curve balls for you!}
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Shelley April 1, 2012 at 2:47 pm

It sounds like you are doing really well yourself with these goals Deb. I love that you are finding time to commit to the exercise side of things too, as well as all that you are doing as a family.
As for the meds, do you use those weekly pill boxes? My Dad has to take quite a few each day, and he sits down every Sunday with all his bottles and places them into each day of the week. As he takes different ones morning and night, he has a white box for the morning, blue for night. I think of it like meal planning, you only have to sit down once and work it out for the week that way!
Hope you have settled back at home well after your busy time at the conference, and I hope you thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it (I’m sure you did!). xx

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Debra Dane April 1, 2012 at 6:43 pm

Thanks so much. I do have the weekly set up – i do that part fine – i just get into my day sometimes and forget to actually take them and have skipped 1-2 days at a time which throws my body out of whack. i am doing much better now – only missed 2 in the last 2 1/2 weeks which is improvement!

I am settling back in – unpacking and getting back on top of home stuff is always 10 x more effort than normal when you have been away LOL
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