Welcome to week 42 of the simplify your life challenge – can you believe there are only 10 weeks left in the challenge and the year! I want to thank those of you who are still reading, those playing along at home and definitely those still blogging about your challenges. I appreciate your being here.
This week we are going to look at friendship. When I sat down and made some notes on friendship I ended up with a Goldilocks view that will make up this week’s challenge.
I think most of us fall into one of three camps (and they change depending on stage of life and many other factors over time):
We have too few friends, too many or just right. Regardless of which camp you fall into I bet you can use a push this week to make some changes. So pick your challenge according to where you fall in those three camps.
Too few – I don’t have a good group of friends and wish I did
Challenge: Your mission is to step out of your comfort zone this week. take a chance, reach out and look for new friends. Join a club, sign up for a class, say hello to a mother at the school gates,join a sports team or a gym, invite over someone you think you connect with (but have waiting patiently for her to invite YOU over). You might not find an instant friend this week but you will certainly be stretching your muscles. Making new friends takes being vulnerable, risking rejection, and just like dating you need to kiss a bunch of frogs before you find your prince.
Just right – but they need my attention
Challenge: Those of you will a good group of friends might also need a push if life has been busy (as it usually is). When was the last time you called your friends or invited them out? Is anyone’s birthday coming up you can organise something special for them? That friend that seems to have gone quiet – reach out and check on her, is she okay? does she need anything?
Too many – and I am afraid to let go
Challenge: We already talked about toxic relationships and negative people. I was going to lump friendships into that challenge but wanted to give it this space to cover all areas of friendship. Some don’t have enough friends, but others have friends that no longer serve them well, cause stress and difficulty, or just linger due to length of association. If you know in your heart that a friendship is not right for you (or worse) it might be time to accept this and move on. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good, feel supported, make you laugh and relax, people you want to be with and choose to make a priority in your life.
If you are ready, but want to read more abut this I love this post written by Dani at Positively Present on ending friendships.
Find your simple,
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