In January I shared that my word for this year was “fearless” and that I was going to continuously push through fear and whatever else holds me back. My usual M.O. in recent years had become to play it safe and stay where I felt comfortable.
Many people hear the word “fearless” and picture brave and daring crazy adventures. They think to be fearless means you must live a life on the edge, or at least far removed from average.
Each of us has a different comfort level, a different starting point and different goals. For me, my attempts at being “fearless” have more to do with challenging those self-limiting thoughts where I have already written myself off before I even try something. I want to be open minded and receptive to what life is offering me. I want to stop playing it safe and push my boundaries.
I know many others also feel they are the ones holding themselves back, they are their own worst enemies. I am here to tell you that you can find many ways to step out of your comfort zone without doing what many would class as “daring”. Start to push your boundaries little by little and see how you feel.
6 simple ways to step out of your comfort zone with new experiences
1. Try a new recipe – new flavours, a new technique, break out of your food rut
2. Deviate from your favourites – your “usual” coffee order, your weekday bowl of porridge, anything you do over and over on autopilot switch to manual mode.
3. Talk to strangers – in line at the shops, in the waiting room, at a school event, a mother at the school gates
4. Explore a part of your city that you’ve never been to before – park your car and wander, find the fun in the “new”
5. Change your appearance – try new make-up; get a haircut that you dream about , but are afraid to try (nothing is permanent); buy a new outfit that is not “your style”, but you are drawn to when ogling others or pinterest or magazines.
6. Rearrange your furniture or decor – many of us “set and forget” our homes unless going for an overhaul. Add a new piece or edit out some of what you have, go browsing at a flea market or antique shop, swap pieces with a friend, paint your walls or add one brightly coloured piece.
You might notice your energy or your confidence levels increase. You might start to see things differently and notice more when you are out and about. What do you feel yourself drawn to? Can you let yourself explore more instead of playing it safe? Trust yourself and that nothing is irreversible.
What is one way you have pushed yourself out of your comfort zone – gently or diving in with both feet?
Find your simple,
Deb
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As you know, I’m kinda feeling my comfort zone is not feeling too comfy at the moment, safe yes but not comfy. My definition of fearless is very similar.
I do the furniture moving (have driven everyone one crazy by it since a young girl) and hair changing used to be a great ‘lift’. Definetly time to step away from the safe zone, great tips.
Stacey-Lee recently posted..What’s holding you back?
Thanks Stacey-Lee – i never do the furniture thing and always wished I was that person. I do the haircut though LOL I saw your post yesterday and thought – ah same wavelength (although you are dealing with pushing yourself for deep internal change and that is huge and scary for many people so you are not alone) xx
Debra Dane recently posted..The 30 day self care blueprint
I’m a huge advocate of pushing those boundaries…mine and those around me! I love the challenge, a bit like closing your eyes whilst falling and knowing you will just land on your feet. All the best with your word!

carmen recently posted..*Phew* It’s all over!
see closing eyes + falling = scare the cr@p out of me!
Nice to “meet you” as I have just been poking around your blog.
Debra Dane recently posted..Grateful for opposites
I go through stages of being comfortable and safe, but then something will trigger a spark and I make changes, but I often go overboard and make dramatic changes in all aspects of my life at once. I think I need to be mo measured in what I do and find a happy medium
happy medium is my goal for most things – my personality type also tends towards all or nothing.
Debra Dane recently posted..Kids toys and playthings that go the distance
It’s amazing the differences even a small change can make. I’ve started to do one new thing each day – even if it’s as simple as a new recipe, or a different lipstick – just something out of my ordinary. With our move last year, I’ve really had to be conscious of stepping out of my comfort zone in order to make new friendships.
Debbie recently posted..Safe Mother & Baby
Good on you debbie – all those things do add up. I find even things like picking a more “wild” nail colour can change my overall outlook as every time i see my blue toes or silver nails i am reminded of stepping a little further out there overall. xxx
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Hi Deb,
I am newish to your blog and find your ‘simplify your life’ posts truly inspire and they are doable! This week I am so far out of my comfort zone that my insides are in knots. I am going through the interview process after being a stay at home mum for 10+ years. I am okay about the prospect of heading back into the workforce but I am anxious about getting out of my jeans and heading off to an interview! Wish me luck;)
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Good luck! that is awesome. I have been at home 9 years and so far avoiding the interview / work process by starting HLS ; ) I am actually in the oricess of organising a series for the blog about resume and interview tips for mothers returning to work after a long break. I know so many women exactly where you are right now – it is the biggest topic of discussion in my circles these days as each month sees another friend interviewing or returning to work or finishing studies…
Just checked out your blog and love it – we have peanut butter cups in common LOL (i gave up sugar and have been passing on my stash to friends and my kids and drooling as they eat them)
Good luck in your interviews – if you have any info you want to share on the process email me as I am sure it will help other women! Would love to chat with you. xx
Debra Dane recently posted..The 30 day self care blueprint
Wow! I was totally thinking about this very thing this morning in relation to my blogging. Time I started pushing the boundaries, stepping out of my comfort zone and “putting myself out there”. I don’t do fearless very well. Thanks for the extra nudge x
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Can’t wait to see what you do Nee – fearless takes heaps of practice for sure! xx
Debra Dane recently posted..Kids toys and playthings that go the distance
Deb, your blog has been inspiring me so much to try new things that it has, ironically, driven me out of cyberspace a bit. I’ve been inviting more people over… and accepting the domestic challenges that go with that (ie being more organized but not needing to be perfect). Getting there!
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Misha that is all fantastic – such a wonderful comment to read!! – deb xx
Debra Dane recently posted..Wishing for a little magic fairy dust
Great ideas Deb. Small steps go a long way.
lipgloss mumma recently posted..Still haven’t found what I’m looking for
Definitely Jodi – even baby steps still move us forward xx
Debra Dane recently posted..The 30 day self care blueprint
I rearranged my bedroom the other day!
Laureny recently posted..How-To Save Paper Patterns – A Tutorial
Fantastic – enjoy the change! love rooms that have flexibility. Ours has limited scope because our bed only fits one spot, but i think new bed linen might be in order after this winter!
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