With my husband currently working away from home much of the time I am reminded of the importance of date nights to have focused time to reconnect. Too often we are having half conversations (interruptions anyone?) or are exhausted by the time the weekend hits.
If we don’t make our relationship a priority no one else is going to do it for us. With February including both my birthday and Valentine’s Day I thought it was a good time to give relationships some dedicated space in my overcrowded mind.
I will say up front in a disclosure that I received some vouchers from Roses Only to use in exchange for sharing my ideas here. It seemed serendipitous when the opportunity presented itself just as I was seeing all the pinned ideas about love and Valentine’s Day and lamenting yet again that my husband never sends / buys me flowers.
I am using my voucher to send myself some flowers later this month and I will enjoy them in and of themselves without being disappointed that they did not come from my husband. Sometimes we need to just move on and take care of our own needs right? Flowers do not have to be something we are sent, but can also be something we buy for ourselves to enjoy.
Date (night) details
I have shared before my key strategy for semi-regular date nights is a babysitting swap. If you can hook up with a good friend or neighbour you can have regular time with your loved one without the added expense of a babysitter. You also have the flexibility of working out details that are right for you if your swap partner is flexible. This could mean daytime dates, evenings, a regular slot or sleepovers where you swap overnights! Regular does not have to mean weekly (we swap every 4-6 weeks).
Along those lines stay open minded about what constitutes “dates”. They need not be expensive, in the evening, alone or even away from your home. What is your focus? Time together enjoying each other’s company. Sometimes we use our babysitting time to go out with friends, other times alone. Sometimes we can’t get babysitting and plan a nice meal and DVD at home.
If you do hire a babysitter you can always go for less expensive ideas (see below) so that your overall costs stay lower. Let creativity help you out.
Ideas for date night at home
- Buy a fondue set inexpensively and set up a fun food night with a main cheese course and then use the pot for dessert course with chocolate fondue.
- Play! use your family wii or Xbox without the kids. Get out board games, cards, backgammon or another game you like – twister anyone?
- Make a theme night – tie together food, drinks and entertainment around a theme. You could eat Italian food, pick up a bottle of Italian red wine and watch “A beautiful life” or go Spanish and add in some salsa dancing (check out you tube for how to videos and learn together or just go with the flow of the music).
- Take a trip down memory lane and get out old photos – both from your time together (reminisce) or pre-couple time (and share your stories)
- Eat at home, but dress up as if you were going out and buy nicer food than usual (treating yourself, but knowing it is less expensive than if bought at a restaurant). Create an atmosphere with mood lighting and music. Make it special.
- When you can’t get out order from a favourite (or wish list) restaurant and one of you bring it back home to enjoy. No cooking means more energy at the end of the night.
Get the babysitter and head out for your date that won’t break the bank
- Find a drive in movie theatre – you can bring a picnic for the car or just bring lots of treats – teenage behaviour optional
- Most cities have free or inexpensive events and showings at art galleries and museums – get a cultural hit and then chat about it over drinks or dinner
- Check local listings for concerts, open mic nights, live gigs, or evening markets.
- Go for a walk and just hold hands – no strollers or kids hands to hold – while you talk
- Eat dinner at home before the babysitter comes and then go out for drinks or dessert at a nice restaurant or bar.
- Find a local bridge and walk across on foot (and back).
- Go out to watch a sporting event – either get tickets to a live event or head to a fun bar or pub and watch it on the big screen and soak in the atmosphere as you cheer for a favourite team.
What are your best ideas for a date with your other half? What was a dating highlight from last year or are you planning for this year?
Do you need even more ideas? I wrote a longer post late last year at Kidspot with more than 20 ideas for simple and affordable date nights. A recent discovery of mine is the Dating Divas website if you want to explore more ideas and invest some time and your creative talents.
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Disclosure: I received vouchers for flowers and a night out with my husband in exchange for my time and ideas on my blog.
If you want to send yourself or your other half some flowers Roses Only handle flower delivery in Sydney, but also all over Australia and internationally, which I did not know. They also have more than just roses which is good as I plan to get something with my favourite flowers (Irises and tulips) depending on what is available.