I tend to talk fast, walk fast, move between five different things all the time. I am working hard at slowing down, being more intentional and letting things go. My current mantra is “pause”. One little word – alongside it’s friend “breathe” – can make such a difference in life.
Pause before you say something you will regret
are you sure that is the right thing to say? can you see the other person’s point of view? does your opinion even matter in this case? are you just cranky? are you hungry, tired or any other feeling that is affecting your words and thoughts?
Pause before you intervene in your kids’ battles
it feels easier to just put a stop to it and get quiet restored, but they need to learn to work it out, don’t you hate that naggy voice?, wait and see how it plays out, know the whole story at the very least, keep your voice calm, listen more than you speak
Pause before you say no
have you really considered the request? why are you saying no? Is it a reflex reaction? do you hear your parents in your head? are you under pressure? are you saying no to yourself because you feel guilty? are you saying no to others because you feel scared? take time to think it through, see if you can step out of your comfort zone.
Pause before you say yes
do you really want to do this? do you feel pressured? do you have time or energy to give? does this feel right to you?
Hit the pause button.
Do you have a mantra or way to slow down?
Find your simple,