Not figuring it all out

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by Debra Dane on July 18, 2013

in Authenticity & Self-awareness

A few months ago I won a prize on one of my favourite artist blogs Kelly Rae Roberts. You enter her big giveaways not knowing which prize you will get as it is all random. I had not even noticed all the sponsor prizes and was shocked when I won something.

I was set up with Andrea from Dream Heart Smart Art for an intuitive dream book reading. I had no idea what that was, but I was just excited that something new had come my way. I was open to whatever it was. I trust the Universe to send me what I need even if I don’t even know it yet.

Well last night we had the second of our two sessions on Skype and I am so happy that I was given the prize that I was meant to have.

Andrea is in Switzerland and knew nothing about me when we began. My intention when working with her was to look at where my writing and art paths were heading and my plans I have been dreaming up behind the scenes here (big ones that seem a little crazy to me some days and other days I am so sure of my dreams I think they are fact).

intuitive dream book

Everything was based on my dream book I created under her guidance (similar to a vision board), emails I sent her (short ones with a few comments or questions) and the energy she picks up from them. To say my mind was blown would be an understatement.

In our first session she told me all about the symbolism in my dream book and about any images she got from my energy and book. Everything she said was spot on, right down to her having a clear vision of me looking out a window at birds (long before I sent my dream book to her).

My desk was moved to face the window in my office earlier this year, I have shared before how I do look out at birds and butterflies all the time and in this case birds were all over my book when I sent the images to her.

dream book 2013

I won’t go into endless details of the skype sessions (I have many pages of notes), but yesterday’s final chat was so reassuring and cut to who I am that I had to stop to share and document it for myself.

Key points I loved from Andrea:

I am too much in my head (amen!)

I need to break some of my systems and self imposed rules (I have grown and some don’t fit any more)

I do not need to have a clear plan laid out, but go with the flow and it will all fall into place.

I am bigger than I think.


I decided to share this here because I know so many of you who read my blog also like to have some plans and order in your life, want to know what is coming or have some control (or a ton of control, depending on where you are on the recovering perfectionist road).

I have been building to this point for many years.

Fighting through the urge to always know – what is expected of me, what I should do, where I need to be next.

It is terrifying to jump sometimes without the net – even when the jumps are small and nowhere near as major as leaps off mountains.

Hearing someone say to me “you can make more mistakes and dare more” filled my heart and energized me.

So I am here to say to you the same things


You do not need to have it all figured out.

You can make more mistakes.

You can dare more.

You are bigger than you think.


Do you find it easy to go with the flow or do you struggle trying to control your world around you?


Find your simple,





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Jodi Gibson July 19, 2013 at 12:36 am

I am way too much in my head!
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kirri @kirri white coaching July 19, 2013 at 6:08 am

I’ve worked with a couple of intuitive coaches – I found it liberating…..sounds like you did too.
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EssentiallyJess July 19, 2013 at 3:31 pm

Beautiful Deb. I’m ok with not knowing what’s coming all the time. I know it’s going to be awesome, whatever it is
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Kelly July 20, 2013 at 12:08 pm

The dream reading sounds really interesting, it kind of reminds me of what comes out of a kinesiology session for me. I can absolutely relate to this Deb, it’s a constant battle to be free of perfectionism and having control over my life. Thanks for sharing x


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