It takes a village

by Debra Dane on March 28, 2012

in Gratitude

This Friday I will be in Melbourne for the Digital Parents blogging conference so I am posting my weekly gratitude thoughts early. I would not dream of skipping it as I seem to have two anchors in my blogging life these days – posting each Monday for Simplify your life and every Friday with my focus on gratitude. I love having these two bookends to my week. One is about changing the future and growing and one is about pausing to reflect on what has gone by.


This week I am extremely grateful for those that make up my virtual village. When you choose to live overseas from your family you do make some sacrifices. There is no one to stop by each week for a family dinner. There is no one to call for back up at a moment’s notice. There is no one who loves your children almost as much as you do.

Or is there?

I feel so blessed that after five years in Brisbane we are able to draw on our community of friends and neighbours when we need to. It really does take a village to raise a family and sometimes that village is extended family, sometimes friends and sometimes the person who lives next door.

When I booked my trip to Melbourne we had no idea that my husband would be so swamped with work. We are currently in a period where we barely see him on weekdays (even worse than before). To pull off a three day trip ended up involving several friends.

Due to early meetings both school days my husband will have to drop the kids off at a friend’s place to have breakfast and get to school.

Thursday afternoon my neighbour is playing fill in parent and Friday another friend will happily add my two kids to her four.

I am grateful that in spite of no family here we have such kind and generous friends that we can trust to take care of our kids in our absence.

I am also grateful to my friend Cherie who is making this trip possible for me by hosting me in her home. Sometimes when you want to do something it can come together  - some frequent flyer miles, a friend with an open heart and home, accommodating  friends and family (even if my kids wish someone else was going in my place).

I have no idea what will happen over these next three days, but I am just happy that I took a chance and decided to go. There will be many bloggers there that I read weekly if not daily and cannot wait to put faces and voices to go with their words and virtual spaces. There will be many others I look forward (a little more nervously)  to meeting. After a ten year gap it will be so nice to visit Melbourne with its beautiful streets, trams and four- seasons- in- one- day, European vibe.


See you back here on Monday!


What are you grateful for this week?


If you want to read more gratitude posts head over to Kidspot for 52 weeks of grateful or to Bron‘s post.


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Image credit: Melbourne tram by flickr user Nick Sarebi

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Leanne @ Uber Simplicity March 28, 2012 at 11:14 pm

Have fun and I look forward to reading all about your trip!
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Jos March 29, 2012 at 7:42 am

Have a wonderful time lovely! You are very lucky indeed to have a wonderful support network. I can’t wait to hear all about your fantastic weekend!
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Shelley March 29, 2012 at 7:53 am

I’m so happy to hear this has all come together for you Deb. Have a fabulous time, and enjoy just being ‘you’ for a while. xx
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Ames March 29, 2012 at 8:51 am

What a wonderful support system! I’m so glad you can go. Enjoy!!!
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Julie March 29, 2012 at 12:33 pm

You are so lucky to have such a good bunch of friends and neighbours to help out. Have a great time in Melbourne and enjoy the conference.
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Jane March 29, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Oh Deb, have a fabulous time, Gorgeous! I wish I were there with you. Maybe next year. J x
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Chrissie March 30, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Having a support system is so important. Family and friends are everything to me, and I’m hoping that when I’m finally able to get my own place again, neighbours will be just as great friends :)


Kymmie @ a day in the life of us March 30, 2012 at 9:41 pm

So glad you went! I’m sure you will have lots to write about on your return.

The Village is a good place, and where would we be without it.

Happy grateful day.

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Jodi Gibson @ Lipgloss Mumma (formerly The Scribble Den) March 31, 2012 at 1:13 pm

it does take a village, so glad you have found yours.
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Debra Dane March 31, 2012 at 7:35 pm

Thanks ladies – turns out the village extends to bloggers as well as I found myself stranded up arrival and had to rely on the kindness of many other bloggers to locate a room for me, give me a space to wait in, a room for the second night and so much support while I was stressed. Overall a good weekend, but so much stress at the start! So grateful for being rescued!
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Mum of Adult Kids April 1, 2012 at 6:52 am

It is great to have friends and neighbours you can trust and rely on during times like this. I don’t know how parents manage when they don’t have access to such resources from time to time. I hope you enjoyed the conference, it certainly sounds like it was worth all the effort!
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