I saw this article shared (funnily enough) on Facebook last week. It discusses the possibility that we have reached the “peak” of gratitude and called out the recent sharing of gratitude / positivity all over Facebook as basically inauthentic because it is not spontaneous, and tedious when you see the same things being mentioned.
I find it amazing how there is often a backlash against popular positive things. As if there is a right way to do it, that it needs to be for everyone or that it can be judged.
In this case I watched as people not only shared wonderful things in their status updates (crowding out the negative), but also connected and encouraged each other.
If your Facebook feed is filled with faux gratitude* along the lines of “I am so grateful I scored highest in my class” or “grateful for my new sports car and fab apartment” then perhaps the issue is who you choose to hang out with and follow.
I can understand getting sour about backhanded ego strokes ** but let’s not throw out the baby with the bath water.
I was tagged for 5 days of gratitude / positivity by my sister. It was hard for me to take up the challenge because it seemed to come along when I was having the shittiest of times.
Thankfully I know that when I find it hardest to express gratitude is when I need it the most.
Among sick kids, stress, solo parenting, one dog popping and peeing on my rug, the other dog ripping out the temporary fence hubby just installed to protect the lawn he was reseeding and more, I dug deep to find the positive each day.
Day 5 looked like this
“1. for soft tissues (my nose is still raw so i am glad i buy the nice thick fancy ones)
2. a warm bed to curl up in tonight as these extreme winds blow outside
3. a separate keyboard that works while my laptop keyboard is failing me”
So all the basics when everything feels like shit.
Nothing sentimental. Nothing boastful. Nothing, but digging deep to connect with anything that was the good among the yuck.
On day 6 I was able to get out of the house for my metalsmithing class (did not know that 2 days later my older child would fall sick and it would start all over again). On the way there I found myself singing along with my favourite songs, taking in the sky and clouds and, yes, expressing gratitude.
Without any external prompting that day I found my way back to naturally expressing gratitude and a more positive outlook.
I was genuinely happier and was grateful for the tunnel I was about to take and bypass the long queue of traffic still on the highway.
The feeling carried on and I knew that those 5 days had shifted that fog and crankiness.
That is the power of expressing your gratitude and digging deep.
So I say bring on all the 100 days of happy posts, 365 days of gratitude, 7 days of positivity or any other meme or project you want to put out there that helps people connect with what they have and how blessed we all really are.
Did you participate in this FB meme? Did you find it helpful? What are you grateful for today?
I am grateful for Jess hosting IBOT every week. I don’t know if I have ever expressed that to her so lots of love to you Jess, you rock Tuesdays!
Love and light
*the sensitive person I am would accept that this person needs some attention and that costs me nothing so I would give them a good click of the like button.
** the comments section on the article are filled with people slagging off participants, FB users in general and those who don’t do gratitude well enough to satisfy the critics.