Grateful: The people in your neighbourhood

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by Debra Dane on January 25, 2013

in Gratitude

One of my words this year is connect and I was thinking about it as I came to write this post. What am I grateful for this week? The people in my real and metaphorical “neighbourhood”. Of course I cannot get the Sesame Street song out of my head now.

As I walk my dog I am connecting with my neighbourhood in a new way – people who stop to say hello, walking streets I usually drive along, experiencing my streets at night or early morning, other dog walkers / owners are now a part of my day to day life – nice to meet you all.

As I need support, emotional or in real time – help you out – support, I find it amongst the same people over and over again. These are my people and I have started to trust they are here for the long term. ┬áThe friends I bounce ideas off of, the ones who give me feedback, the ones who seek me out, the ones who have a kind word that lifts me up on a low day, the ones who watch my kids when I have needs that must be met, the ones who allow me to return the favour (this neighbourhood needs to be filled with two way streets).

As I look forward to a new school year starting next week I am grateful that we have stayed put in Brisbane and now have a solid group of friends. Our kids enter new classes this year moving up with some kids they know, but waiting to be surprised who else is in their class. I am the least worried about that this year than ever before as they (and I) are no longer reliant upon making new friends in their classes. They will enjoy their classes and of course make new friends, but we all have friendships we continue to develop and invest our time in. We are no longer just starting out, praying we find “our people”. There is something wonderful about just easing deeper into existing friendships rather than feeling like you are forever auditioning for a part in someone else’s life.


Edited to add: less than 2 hours after writing this i was making dinner and managed to slice off a huge chunk of my finger. Everything that i had written came into play since my husband is away and my kids could not stomach all the blood in order to help me. I could barely manage to keep pressure on the wound, blood would not stop, had to instruct my daughter to call a friend. That friend was on her way to me when her car would not start. She called another friend who’s husband came to my house. Then first friend made it over. She took the kids and fed them, he took me to the doctor and stayed with me for more than an hour and a half through the nurse, then the doctor and supported me while i cried from fear, pain and nausea. Then went home with first friend, her husband walked my dog and then drove us all home. I was grateful before, but am now beyond grateful to know that even when I am flying solo there are people to step in and help me.


What are you grateful for this week?


Find your simple,


Image credit: flickr user Thomas Hawk

Linking up with 52 weeks of grateful over at Village Voices.

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Me January 25, 2013 at 11:23 am

Oh no – I hope that your fingers is OK and that youaren’t in too much pain. I have this big square over my screen where I am typing so please excuse any typos – I can’t see whta I am typing !!!
You are so right – we all need our neighbourhood. We are starting to meet more of the people in our street – mainly because the old ones have mostly died and younger people have moved in !!!!! We have some lovely get togethers in our cul-de-sac.
I am so very grateful for my online friends too – they are amazing at supporting me when I need it – sometimes realising it before I do !!!
Have a great weekend and take care of your finger !
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Elisa {With Grace& Eve} January 25, 2013 at 12:51 pm

You are so right Deb! Having a supportive network around us is an amazing feeling. Grateful for that too :) hope you are healing well, and taking it easy xx
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Fiona January 25, 2013 at 7:13 pm

Wow what timing. Hope the finger is OK. What a way to reinforce the message. It is so important to build strong relationships in the community. It was something we put a lot of effort into when moving here 3 years ago.
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Kelly January 25, 2013 at 9:02 pm

It’s so important to have that network when your partner is away, you can almost guarantee something will go wrong when you’re on your own! (Always happens to me when hubby is away for work!)
Hope your finger gets better soon! :)


Michelle Lucas Soliz January 25, 2013 at 10:43 pm

Deb…this week (and every week) I am thankful for my parents, hubby, kids, grandkids, and friends near and far. As my parents age and both struggle with different cancers (mom has lung, dad has bladder) I am reminded how short life really is and try to take every moment with them and memorize it. My hubby, parents and kids have been by my side while I’ve undergone 3 major surgeries since October 2…and I was on best rest for 3 weeks during the holidays. So that’s what I’m grateful for…everyday! Thanks Deb…I pray your finger heals quickly and you get back to daily stuff soon. Take care!


Claire Chadwick @ Scissors Paper Rock January 26, 2013 at 10:41 am

Ouch! Hope your finger is gonna be ok!!
Connections….whether with people, an environment, a passion or an online space; is incredibly important to me too. Long lasting and familiar friendships – I am too: grateful for.
Lovely post.
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Lisa@RandomActsOfZen January 26, 2013 at 11:56 am

Oh Deb, thank goodness for your network! It’s so lovely to know that in times of stress, you have people that you can count on.
I hope that finger heals soon x
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Happylan January 26, 2013 at 12:57 pm

That sounds painful, hope it heals up quickly. Sounds like you have a great ‘neighbourhood’ to help you out. :)
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Seana Smith January 26, 2013 at 2:35 pm

Hi there Deb, I found it takes a while to built these sorts of reliable friendships. I’d be so reluctant to move again as we have them here now and lovely old friends. Can imagine a year or two away, but I’d hate to really start over again.

My husband’s away a lot and that means I need my pals even more. Hope your finger heals quickly.
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Maxabella January 27, 2013 at 6:49 pm

OMG, the finger. It’s just so awful, but I know via Facey that you’re all okay. x
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