Last week I was grateful for people watching and just sitting back and observing. How fast our needs and gratefuls can change. This week I am in need of talking – so much going on in my head that I need to talk to process it, seek out others’ views and advice, gain support so I am not thrashing these ideas out by myself.
I am grateful for my husband – he may not listen when I ask him to label something before sticking it in the freezer, but he listens when it really counts. Letting me unwind with a favourite TV show and then turning the television off, turning to face each other and just talk and get real with myself. He acts as that brilliant sounding board he has been for 17 years. Everyone needs someone in their life that knows them so well they can push or hold back as needed. This week he gently pushed me in a new direction for my thoughts and instead of getting defensive I finally got real with myself. It helped.
I am grateful for friends overseas that show up via skype. We share common ground, common dilemmas, common battles. We talk, share, offer advice, listen, talk some more, nod and sigh. We are not alone.
I am grateful for women I have met over the years my since children have entered school. Just as it takes the kids years to find their little group I feel it has been the same for me. The same advice I give them (friends make you feel good about yourself rather than make you cry, don’t chase friends who are running away, you are in charge of you) applies to me too. I am finding the women I gain nourishment from, the women who make me smile and laugh and think. Above all else they listen. I can tell the difference. Some women in my life I connect with, even laugh and smile, but I don’t feel seen or heard. So for those that fully show up when we are together I am forever grateful. Tonight I will be raising a glass (or 4) with some of them and I can’t wait to unwind, talk, laugh and truly listen.
Thank you for listening.
What are you grateful for this week?
Find your simple,
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