This week someone asked on Facebook if we like to people watch and I had to reply that it is in my blood and one of my favorite pastimes. I don’t think you can grow up in New York City and not people watch – they might kick you out – it is such a normal part of the culture. I would actually say it is a sport.
It is one thing (among many) that my British husband had to get used to. He would nudge me and tell me to “stop staring” when all I had been doing is “observing” and taking it all in. I watch families, check out women’s clothes and accessories, decide what I will order in a restaurant after following waiters with my eyes as they deliver dishes around the restaurant.
I have been known to approach women to find out where they got their handbag.
I do not hesitate to lean over to another table to ask if the dish tastes as good as it looks.
I have enjoyed many interesting conversations that I was not actually a part of.
I was aware this week how often I still people watch and observe and eavesdrop – especially in my own house. I love nothing more than to hang back quietly while my girls talk, make up songs, play and draw and simply observe and listen. Sometimes they catch me and give me a little look. Lulu, especially, will say “whaaaat?” with a bit of a cheeky grin. She knows I enjoy watching them, but teases me nonetheless.
For most of my life I was actually known as a talker* – seriously never shut up… Now I feel I am happier being an observer and I don’t always have to be involved in the conversation. I am grateful for that ability to hang back just enough to take it all in now.
What are you grateful for this week?
Find your simple,
Deb
Photo credit: NYC photo by flickr user vanz
*I might still be known this way – not sure how others perceive me as a slowed down and quieter New Yorker is still louder and more out there than your average Australian so I don’t think that perception will ever change. I laughingly explain that this is the laid back version of me – not sure if I will ever achieve true “laid back” – unlike the people watching, that is not in the New Yorker blood.
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we can be talkers and observers right? I love your outgoing personality, it was only this week I talked about me being introverted and the hang ups associated with that. love your work.
Mandy recently posted..Kidspace :: Product Reviews
definitely both hon! My old friend I caught up with today specifically mentioned she read and loved my post about being an introvert and happy for the kids to go back to school after summer break as she always felt bad that she felt that way – introverts are just different, not wrong or bad ; ) It is nice to see more blog posts talking abour it these days.
Debra Dane recently posted..Colour coding to simplify my life
I love people watching too. It is amazing what people will do if they don’t realise they are being watched though…
kelley @ magnetoboldtoo recently posted..Shopping for The Golden Spawn.
LOL too true (i try to resist people watching from the car though – have to draw the line somewhere)
Debra Dane recently posted..Choosing a life overseas
love people watching.. and thinking you will never see that particular stranger again.. the world is so amazing
Mum’s the Word recently posted..Heating things Up on the Kitchen~ Easy Pumpkin Baked Risotto
People watching….also one of my favorite sports! It’s so much fun when you are exploring a new city, but also a fab way of sitting back and gaining a new perspective on where you already live.
As for the chitty chat – I don’t think I have ever met anyone who talks as much as you! On the other hand, I am often quite content to sit back and absorb, as you often add a depth and clarity to my own thought processes, which I struggle to connect with on my own.
kirri recently posted..Rockin’ Mamma Interview with Tamara Grand
I’m always watching people. It can be entertaining, and educational! I occasionally push past my shyness and open my mouth to speak but only if they catch me watching!
Mum of Adult Kids recently posted..Grateful for Determination (mine)
I love people watching out and about and at home too – my little girls conversations with her toys are hilarious!
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