Grateful for comings and goings

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by Debra Dane on January 4, 2013

in Gratitude

Happy New Year to you all!

I can hardly believe that I actually took a real break from blogging and social media while I was in the States with my family. I had planned to take a half-break – post a few times a week, check in on Facebook once a day etc but thankfully it just did not happen. I was too busy most days, too tired other days and only had wifi when in our hotel for the night or based with family (and then I found the last thing I wanted to do was write or think).

How are you? I hope each of you are doing well, had a good end of the year and are raring to go for 2013.

Me? I found my break stirred me up inside. I will never know if it was the long break from blogging and social media or being back on meds or quality time DOING and LIVING instead of being on my computer or phone, but no matter the cause I like the result.

I had room to breathe, room to think, room to hit the reset button and room to dream again.

2012 was such a mixed year for me.

I fell in and out of love with blogging.

I was a stay at home mom, but also spent much of each day writing here, creating and leading 2 runs of the self care blueprint, writing over at Kidspot (a highlight for me!) and looking at returning to work.

I exercised and gave up sugar and attempted to be healthier and yet my health was one of my most troublesome issues, often making me feel old, cranky and in pain.

I shared how to” find your simple”, but my life stopped being simple – this was where I fell out of love with blogging.

Thankfully this trip gave me the gift of distance, clarity, space to imagine again, reconnection with myself and disconnection from my smart phone (which I actually lost on the trip).

So this week I am grateful for:

Losing my smartphone - I had been using it to take photos for a while on the trip. Then I packed it away / stuck it in a bag (or who knows what) and let my husband and kids take most of the photos while I walked, looked in windows, watched dolphins, swung on bench seats, ate many amazing meals, read (oh how much I read!), and talked to strangers everywhere.

I was worried about the cost of breaking my contract, but found out yesterday that they can send me a replacement sim card which I can use with my old (NOT SMART) phone until my contract ends in June or when I re-sign and get a new phone in March. This means for the next 2 1/2 months I will revert to the old days pre-blog (when I got the phone) and no longer be able to check emails while out and about, no longer look at comments on the blog until I can actually answer them, and continue my hiatus – sometimes bad things really are good things – I always look for the lesson or silver lining – trust me they are there if you stay open to them.

Coming home again - both the coming home I did to the USA (seeing family and friends, eating favourite foods, riding Splash Mountain at midnight with my husband and kids at Disney and more) and the coming home I did here this week (it was such a long and deep break that I had forgotten the name of our main street here – it sounded strange and wrong when I said it, and when I walked into our house it looked different – I had actually forgotten what my house looked and felt like)

For my whole trip – I feel truly blessed to have that time with the people who are important to me. Whether it was dinner with two of my favourite people from high school or lunch in Chinatown with most of my family (a party of 17 people!), a photo shoot in the NYC studio of my oldest friend (can’t wait to post photos including updating my head shot), meet ups with mothers who became my online friends when I needed them most and now crossed into IRL territory, snuggles in bed with my girls or my husband as we slept in every configuration possible (including one hotel where my 9 year old BEGGED for some space and a room of her own so I granted her the king bedroom while I shared a double with her sister while hubby slept in a double beside us and grandma in a bedroom of her own).  So many” firsts” for my kids on this trip that we will be talking about it forever. Sights, sounds, food, people, time, distance, drives, train, planes and love. 2013 is a year of uncertainty for us thanks to a change in the economy and my husband’s work, but I am grateful that we head into it with this in the bank (not money, but this trip). Whatever comes we can draw on this account and smile and laugh and connect with each other.

LOVE!

 

What are you grateful for this week?

 

Find your simple,

Deb

 

Linking up with Bron for 52 weeks of grateful (starting again for 2013 so join in!)

 

 

 

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Happylan
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January 4, 2013 at 8:21 am

What an amazing trip and a beautiful post Deb. So glad to hear you had a fantastic time and that it has left you feeling inspired. The photos you have posted are wonderful, I love the family shot and that cute little snowman. It sounds like this holiday was the soul-break you so sorely needed and wow what an awesome experience for your children too.
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:26 pm

Thanks hon – so good to be back and connecting again – I hope you had a lovely end to 2012.
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Sharon January 4, 2013 at 8:30 am

Hi Deb – great to have you back!! Sounds like you had an amazing trip and you have inspired me to plan one for our family – thank you. I am grateful for you! I didn’t think much of blogging – mostly because I didn’t understand it – and now thanks to your blog, I’ve started my own (about a very different topic). I have loved reading that I am not the only one who feels the way I do, that it’s ok to go back on meds, that I’m not ‘crazy’ and I’m finally beginning to appreciate me! So thank you and I look forward to sharing your blog in 2013.
xo

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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:30 pm

Fabulous Sharon!!! definitely appreciate yourself – if we don’t love and appreciate ourselves no one else can really. If you want to share your blog here I would love to check it out… xx
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Lulu
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January 4, 2013 at 8:51 am

It sounds like the break was the best thing for you and exactly what you needed!!!! Sounds like an amazing trip and you took full advantage of the time with your family.

Grateful for holidays this week and being more mindful with my parenting. There are lots of things I want to work towards {including maybe going back to blogging more often} but for the moment being calm is my focus and need for my family. The balance I want/need will come later.

Happy first grateful post of your year!
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:33 pm

Thanks Lulu. Would love to read more blog posts from you… but definitely like your approach and focus right now (i am forever working on the calm and patient stuff .. .) xx
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Jaime January 4, 2013 at 10:22 am

So glad you had a great trip & a well-needed break. Also happy we had a chance to meet up at the happiest place on earth! :) Best wishes to you in the new year, and I haven’t forgotten to email you pics, but I haven’t quite gotten them off my camera yet…

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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:34 pm

No worries – so glad we finally met (and your Christmas card arrived and was waiting for us – thanks xxx)
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Emily
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January 4, 2013 at 12:53 pm

Welcome back! Missed you but so glad you had the break.
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:35 pm

Thanks Em – good to be back – want to catch up on all the blogs I missed but know that will never happen so will just start with January ; ) Happy new year to you!
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Jodi Gibson January 4, 2013 at 12:56 pm

What a wonderful break you had. Sometimes that is all the heart and soul needs. A break from everything that can be left behind, then we open our eyes again to real life and see what is important.
Great to see you back and here’s to a wonderful 2013 x
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 8:39 pm

you described it exactly Jodi – hope you had a lovely end of the year – wishing you wonderful things this year!
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Mandy
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January 4, 2013 at 1:23 pm

lovely family shot, hope you come back ready to grab the world with both hands.
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 9:15 pm

Thanks Mandy! With school holidays the only trick now is to carve out writing time somehow! Happy new year to you lovely!
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Alicia January 4, 2013 at 5:40 pm

Sounds like a great holiday, and just what you all needed. I always love your honesty Deb and I wish you and your family a beautiful 2013 xx
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Debra Dane
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January 4, 2013 at 9:18 pm

Same back at you Alicia – may 2013 be kind to your wonderful family xx
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Jane
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January 4, 2013 at 10:56 pm

Oh Deb, I’m so delighted that your break was so refreshing. I can hear the lift in your voice. Fabulous. You gave so much to so many last year that I’m not surprised it left you feeling jaded. Wishing you a sparkling 2013, my friend! J x
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Kate January 5, 2013 at 8:27 am

Deb, that is the loveliest family photo.

Knowing how much you put into the SYL challenge alone, I can only imagine how wonderful a break from it all must feel.

Having consciously made the effort to spend quality time LIVING and DOING myself these last few months, giving up social media totally, I would say I am grateful for the wonderful place in which I start the new year.

Hope the holiday high sticks around for you throughout 2013!
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Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit January 5, 2013 at 2:13 pm

Wow, they are some great gratefuls.
Love the photos
Absolutely adore the family photo.
Husband and I are off to New York in a month for business (and some pleasure). I have no idea what to pack because I am not used to snowy environments. How does one get dressed for business and also be snow ready?
Any suggestions?
How cold was it?
Thanks for stopping by Deep Fried Fruit ..

Cheers
Leanne

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Lisa@RandomActsOfZen January 5, 2013 at 9:33 pm

Sometimes you just have to take a step back and breathe for a while. Your trip sounds like just the thing at the right time. And so lovely to catch up with people that you haven’t seen in a while. Beautiful photos too. Lisa x

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kirri January 6, 2013 at 8:41 am

I’m with Jane – You can definitely sense that you had a much needed break. You sound rejuvenated and rearing to go .

Ready to dream again – I love the sound of that x
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Aroha @ Colours of Sunset January 6, 2013 at 3:27 pm

This post made me smile from ear to ear. I can hear a change in your “voice” – a smile, a light-hardheartedness, a relaxed and rejuvenated voice. I’m so glad you had an amazing time and hope that this year is everything you are dreaming of. x
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Maxabella January 8, 2013 at 3:00 pm

Welcome back, Deb. I really missed you. I’m glad you had such a fab time away with your lovely family. You really needed that break, my love. Cheers to a wonderful 2013. x
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