“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” ~ Albert Einstein
As a recovering perfectionist I have worked long and hard on letting myself off the hook. Along with accepting I cannot do it all, be it all and know it all, I have come to focus on the positives in this life. When looking at “imperfection” with new eyes I was able to celebrate all I did do, celebrate how I am “good enough”, and that I can learn one thing at a time. I was able to finally focus on the positive side to making mistakes and being imperfect.
1. Mistakes are an opportunity to learn and grow
The most important aspect for me is seeing mistakes as part of my journey. It allows for creative thinking as I look at what did not work and what might work in the future. When you make a mistake you have a choice – beat yourself up and stay in the negative or choose to learn from it for the next time and focus on it positively. Every mistake you make as you try something new is taking you one step closer to success.
“Mistakes are the usual bridge between inexperience and wisdom.” ~ Phyllis Theroux
2. Mistakes allow for greater empathy
One aspect of perfectionism that had the worst effect on my family was expecting others to not make mistakes too. Nitpicking, nagging, getting upset over silly things that really don’t matter in the big scheme of things. Now when I make a mistake I take a moment to let it sink in and remind myself that I am not perfect, nor is anyone else, and I find my patience grows for when someone else makes a mistake next time.
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~ Elbert Hubbard
3. Making mistakes shows my kids I am not perfect
It is very important to me that my kids learn that they don’t have to be perfect. If they never saw adults make mistakes how would they know it is okay to do so themselves. I have had to show my kids that their teachers even make mistakes (don’t send home something when it was supposed to happen, typos on papers, etc) so they would be comfortable asking questions, accepting less than 100% grades or owning up to a mistake made at school.
At home my husband and I have always owned up to our mistakes and apologized to our children without hesitation. We are showing them that everyone is the same and that mistakes are not things to be feared.
4. Mistakes are a chance for me to practice self-love
How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake? Do you beat yourself up and speak negatively or do you find a way to let it go and accept you are human? I often found myself calling myself stupid or getting annoyed at all the little things that I “should” have been able to do easily. Now when I stop myself (earlier and earlier) I have a chance to be kind to myself, treat myself the way I would treat a good friend, and practice unconditional love. This is a chance to practice saying positive and forgiving things to yourself.
Can you find the beauty in making mistakes?
Find your simple,
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