Last year I participated in a six month mentor programme with Melissa Dinwiddie (it was brilliant check it out- not affiliate). For me, one of the best weeks of the class was where we discussed support.
Melissa taught me all about the different kinds of supporters you can have in your life and it was eye opening.
Previously I felt like some people supported me and some did not.
In reality some people are emotional supporters and I tended to focus more on them as they made me feel like I could fly.
Other people are practical supporters and do things that help in a practical way.
Unfortunately I am too familiar with theoretical supporters – those people who do neither in spite of supposedly being in your corner.
It helps to know this because instead of having your expectations remain unmet you can know who in your support circles can be relied on for what type of support.
In my case I made a list and found one great friend who fulfils both practical and emotional support roles (and we meet up every few weeks now), plus several friends who offer endless emotional support and I know they can lift me up when I am doubting my ability to make my dreams come true.
In the practical realm I am paying for some support now in the form of a business coach and am interviewing to hire someone to develop my jewelry making skills.
I also plan to involve my husband on a practical level.
Instead of being frustrated that he was not constantly checking in on how I was feeling and the emotional toll of pursuing dreams, I reached out to others for that and looked at what I knew he could offer me with ease. It does not mean he is not involved or doesn’t care, it just means that between his work and interstate commute it is asking too much for him to satisfy that emotional role right now.
What support do you need to pursue your dreams? Who can you involve on a practical and/or emotional level?
Who is really a theoretical supporter – can you remove them from the equation? If not, make sure your energy is focused on the other two types of supporters.
Find your simple,