Welcome to another month of the series “Letters to my daughters”. To see what it is about and read the first letter check out number one: “Authentically you”. The second letter was ”Honoring your needs”. The third was “On success”. The fourth was “On risk”. Somehow I missed May – shows how crazy life can be…
To my beautiful girls,
If there is one message I would want you to hold in your heart always it is this – you are loved unconditionally. That is a fact and something that will never change.
I need you to understand what this means.
I know I have explained what “unconditional” means literally – that our love for you is not decided based on how you act, what you say or what happens on any given day. There are no conditions and the love is given freely to you both.
“Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another’s personhood.” Karen Casey
What does it mean practically?
It means you can always come to us – no matter what. Whether something is scaring you, worrying you or is something against rules or laws, you can always tell us the truth and we will love and support you. We will always be there.
It means that as long as we are both alive you have a safe place to come to talk, for someone to listen without judgement, to offer a hug and to kiss you. We will always be there.
It means that we acknowledge that we are all learning and growing and make mistakes, but that mistakes and choices do not mean we do not deserve love. You will be met with love and compassion. We will always be there.
It means that nothing you can say or do will ever make us stop loving you. The times you say “I hate you”, the times you walk away. The times you slam your door or roll your eyes. You might not believe this, but I was once where you are now. Those times are the moments when I will love you even more – to make sure you know you are in a safe place, that you can let it out, that you are just right as you are. We will always be there.
“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
From the day you were born we were forever connected. I love you like a part of myself. Even when you are far from me I will always love you unconditionally.
I love you always and forever – just as you are.
Mommy xx
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